Every holiday season despite my best efforts I go through a mild version of this – between missing a family member, not seeing the sun during the week (or even on the weekends with the weather we’ve been having lately), the stress of the season, and the pressure to create the perfect Christmas memories some holiday seasons are better for me than others and if I’m being honest this year I’m on the low end of holiday enthusiasm. Once I get out of the house and at a party I wind up having a nice time but it wears me out and it’s exhausting just dragging myself there. Right now I still have a few Christmas decorations that aren’t completer because I haven’t had the motivation to finish and I still need to send my Christmas cards. I’m getting there but this year seems a little harder for some reason.
So because I have experience with this myself here’s some tips on how you can offer support when you see a love one experiencing the holiday blues:
2. Don’t stop inviting them out / to parties no matter how many times they’re declined a prior invitation. Sometimes it’s just nice to be invited and thought of
3. Write a short personal message on your Christmas card – especially if your card is announcing some sort of milestone in your own life (cough cough I’m looking at you “Married Christmas” card senders). I know it’s completely not your intention but when someone is feeling blue your card can come off braggy and a reminder how not perfect their life is. Honestly, I’m not a fan of bragging Christmas cards period but I live in the real world.
4. If you’ve experienced depression yourself let your loved one know you understand what they’re going through. We’ve come a long way as a society in discussing mental health but there’s still such a level of shame associated with it – honestly I feel like I’m taking a pretty big risk in writing this post. But if you don’t have your own experience to share please share this post with anyone you think made need to know they are not alone in their feelings.
5. If you are really truly concerned that you loved one is experiencing more than just some holiday blues than let them know that you are there for them and mean it – don’t just tell them they can call you anytime if they need anything – call and text them on a regular basis to check in. Let’s say you go to lunch with a loved one today and they seem blue – call or text them tomorrow and say hey, I hope today is a better day. When I’m experiencing the blues I tell myself every bad day that tomorrow will be better.
6. If you feel like your loved one is a danger to themselves or to others than encourage them to seek professional help. The suicide prevention lifeline is 1-800-273-TALK
This time of year can be rough on everyone so let’s be sure to look out for each other and spread the love this holiday season.